IMAGO Childhood Profile Assessment — Discover Your Relationship Blueprint

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Your Caregivers

Identify the two primary caregiving figures from your childhood.

Q1 Who played the major caregiving role in your childhood?

e.g. "My mother", "Dad", "Grandmother", "Stepfather"

Q2 Who was the second major caregiving figure in your childhood?

e.g. "My father", "Aunt", "Stepmother", "Older sibling"

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Affirming (Positive) Traits

The qualities in your caregivers that felt good, safe, or nourishing.

Q3 List three affirming (positive, pleasurable) traits you remember about Caregiver A.

Separate with commas or write one per line.

Examples

Warm · Nurturing · Patient · Encouraging · Playful · Protective · Generous · Consistent · Calm · Affectionate · Present · Supportive · Gentle · Reliable · Attentive · Kind · Fair · Humorous · Emotionally available · Interested in me · Proud of me · Reassuring · Steady · Caring

Q4 List three affirming traits you remember about Caregiver B.

Separate with commas or write one per line.

Examples

Warm · Nurturing · Patient · Encouraging · Playful · Protective · Generous · Consistent · Calm · Affectionate · Present · Supportive · Gentle · Reliable · Attentive · Kind · Fair · Humorous · Emotionally available · Interested in me · Proud of me · Reassuring · Steady · Caring

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Negating (Painful) Traits

The qualities that were difficult, painful, or hard to be around.

Q5 List three negating (painful or difficult) traits you remember about Caregiver A.

Separate with commas or write one per line.

Examples

Critical · Distant · Unpredictable · Harsh · Dismissive · Emotionally unavailable · Controlling · Shaming · Moody · Volatile · Inconsistent · Withholding · Passive-aggressive · Rejecting · Neglectful · Intrusive · Cold · Angry · Anxious · Judgmental · Perfectionistic · Self-absorbed · Quick to blame · Intimidating

Q6 List three negating traits you remember about Caregiver B.

Separate with commas or write one per line.

Examples

Critical · Distant · Unpredictable · Harsh · Dismissive · Emotionally unavailable · Controlling · Shaming · Moody · Volatile · Inconsistent · Withholding · Passive-aggressive · Rejecting · Neglectful · Intrusive · Cold · Angry · Anxious · Judgmental · Perfectionistic · Self-absorbed · Quick to blame · Intimidating

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Positive Experiences

Memories of good moments with each caregiver.

Q7 Describe positive experiences you had with Caregiver A.

Examples

Being comforted when upset · Being praised or celebrated · Feeling protected · Being read to · Playing games together · Laughing together · Shared hobbies · Special outings · Being taught a skill · Bedtime routines · Being listened to · Feeling chosen · Being included · Family traditions · Receiving help with problems · Being hugged · Being encouraged to try · Support at school events · Feeling safe at home · Honest conversations · Feeling understood

Q8 Which experience with Caregiver A holds the most weight for you?

Q9 Describe positive experiences you had with Caregiver B.

Examples

Being comforted when upset · Being praised or celebrated · Feeling protected · Being read to · Playing games together · Laughing together · Shared hobbies · Special outings · Being taught a skill · Bedtime routines · Being listened to · Feeling chosen · Being included · Family traditions · Receiving help with problems · Being hugged · Being encouraged to try · Support at school events · Feeling safe at home · Honest conversations · Feeling understood

Q10 Which experience with Caregiver B holds the most weight for you?

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Positive Feelings

The good feelings you experienced in relationship with each caregiver.

Q11 What positive feelings did you experience with Caregiver A?

Examples

Safe · Loved · Seen · Valued · Calm · Joyful · Proud · Secure · Accepted · Connected · Relaxed · Confident · Hopeful · Cherished · Supported · Encouraged · Understood · Important · Peaceful · Playful · Steady · Cared for · Worthy · Comfortable being myself

Q12 Which of those feelings with Caregiver A holds the most weight now?

Q13 What positive feelings did you experience with Caregiver B?

Examples

Safe · Loved · Seen · Valued · Calm · Joyful · Proud · Secure · Accepted · Connected · Relaxed · Confident · Hopeful · Cherished · Supported · Encouraged · Understood · Important · Peaceful · Playful · Steady · Cared for · Worthy · Comfortable being myself

Q14 Which of those feelings with Caregiver B holds the most weight now?

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Painful Experiences

Difficult or frustrating memories with each caregiver.

Q15 What painful or frustrating experiences did you have with Caregiver A?

Examples

Being criticized · Being ignored · Feeling unseen · Being compared to others · Inconsistent rules · Broken promises · Being punished unfairly · Being blamed · Yelling or conflict · Feeling responsible for their mood · Feeling like a burden · Not being comforted · Being dismissed when hurt · Walking on eggshells · Feeling controlled · Feeling intruded on · Being embarrassed · Being left alone too much · Emotional or physical intimidation · Being pressured to perform · Being shamed

Q16 Which of those with Caregiver A felt most difficult or defining for you?

Q17 What painful or frustrating experiences did you have with Caregiver B?

Examples

Being criticized · Being ignored · Feeling unseen · Being compared to others · Inconsistent rules · Broken promises · Being punished unfairly · Being blamed · Yelling or conflict · Feeling responsible for their mood · Feeling like a burden · Not being comforted · Being dismissed when hurt · Walking on eggshells · Feeling controlled · Feeling intruded on · Being embarrassed · Being left alone too much · Emotional or physical intimidation · Being pressured to perform · Being shamed

Q18 Which of those with Caregiver B felt most difficult or defining for you?

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Negative Feelings

Feelings that came up repeatedly in these relationships.

Q19 What negative feelings did you experience repeatedly with Caregiver A?

Examples

Anxious · Afraid · Ashamed · Sad · Angry · Lonely · Confused · Helpless · Rejected · Invisible · Not good enough · Guilty · Overwhelmed · Tense · Unsafe · Unimportant · Frustrated · Trapped · Disappointed · Numb · Resentful · Embarrassed · Powerless · Wary

Q20 Which feeling with Caregiver A was most difficult or consistent?

Q21 What negative feelings did you experience repeatedly with Caregiver B?

Examples

Anxious · Afraid · Ashamed · Sad · Angry · Lonely · Confused · Helpless · Rejected · Invisible · Not good enough · Guilty · Overwhelmed · Tense · Unsafe · Unimportant · Frustrated · Trapped · Disappointed · Numb · Resentful · Embarrassed · Powerless · Wary

Q22 Which feeling with Caregiver B was most difficult or consistent?

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Deepest Fears

The fears that arose in relationship with your caregivers.

Q23 What were the deepest fears you experienced with Caregiver A?

Examples

Being rejected · Being abandoned · Not being enough · Getting in trouble · Being punished · Being shamed · Being criticized · Being alone · Being a burden · Being unloved · Being ignored · Losing the relationship · Being controlled · Making mistakes · Disappointing them · Conflict or anger erupting · Being unsafe · Being exposed · Never being accepted · Being unseen

Q24 Which fear with Caregiver A holds the most weight for you now?

Q25 What were the deepest fears you experienced with Caregiver B?

Examples

Being rejected · Being abandoned · Not being enough · Getting in trouble · Being punished · Being shamed · Being criticized · Being alone · Being a burden · Being unloved · Being ignored · Losing the relationship · Being controlled · Making mistakes · Disappointing them · Conflict or anger erupting · Being unsafe · Being exposed · Never being accepted · Being unseen

Q26 Which fear with Caregiver B holds the most weight for you now?

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Unmet Longings

The deep needs that were not fully met by your caregivers.

Q27 What deep longings went unmet with Caregiver A?

Examples

To be seen and known · To be comforted · To feel safe · To be encouraged · To be accepted as I am · To be valued · To be listened to · To feel chosen · To be protected · To receive affection · To have steady presence · To feel understood · To be reassured · To be prioritized · To be celebrated · To have my feelings matter · To have consistency · To feel secure · To be supported without strings attached · To be guided kindly

Q28 Which longing with Caregiver A holds the most weight for you now?

Q29 What deep longings went unmet with Caregiver B?

Examples

To be seen and known · To be comforted · To feel safe · To be encouraged · To be accepted as I am · To be valued · To be listened to · To feel chosen · To be protected · To receive affection · To have steady presence · To feel understood · To be reassured · To be prioritized · To be celebrated · To have my feelings matter · To have consistency · To feel secure · To be supported without strings attached · To be guided kindly

Q30 Which longing with Caregiver B holds the most weight for you now?

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Overall Selections — Integration

Q31 From the painful traits you listed, write the three that best describe your caregivers overall.

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Q32 From the difficult experiences you described, write the one that feels most defining of your childhood experience.

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Q33 From the feelings you identified, write the one that best captures how you often felt.

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Q34 From the fears you described, write the one that feels most deeply rooted.

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Q35 From the positive qualities you longed for, write the three that mattered most to you.

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Q36 From the longings you described, write the one that feels most central.

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Q37 From the positive feelings you experienced, write the one you most wished could have been consistent.

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Q38 From the fears you listed earlier, write the ONE fear that feels like the worst fear overall.

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IMAGO Childhood Profile
Assessment

About You

Your Caregivers

Affirming (Positive) Traits

Negating (Painful) Traits

Positive Experiences

Positive Feelings

Painful Experiences

Negative Feelings

Deepest Fears

Unmet Longings

Overall Selections — Integration

IMAGO Information Synthesis